When Dreams and Realities Clash


Oh how true these words are for me.

For as long as I can remember I have always wanted to be an Astronomer…well, actually an Astrophysicist, but whatevs! I had a full scholarship to Northern Arizona University and I had goals. But I had such a strenuous schedule my senior year of high school and I worked 25 hours a week on top of school so I was fed up. I decided to join the military.

Well, two months before I graduated I became friends with a baaaaaaad group of people. I started dating a guy and that relationship became toxic. I dodged joining the military and sunk into a depression. After 18 months of pure HELL, I escaped that life and found myself waitressing at a diner. One day this hot dude walked in the door and I knew I had just met my forever. We were 19 and completely smitten. Two weeks later we professed our love, and one month later we found out I was pregnant with our daughter.

My dreams and goals ended right there. Now, before you judge me hear me out. I had extremely high expectations and goals for myself. At 19 I was working 80 hour weeks (2 shifts daily) just because I had the stamina and I wanted the money. The day I found out I was pregnant, everything changed. My unborn child became the center of my universe.

For years I focused on raising my daughter and taking care of my husband (we married 6 months after we hooked up). I quit dreaming, quit reaching for goals, and I put all others above myself. I did this for SIX years. Then one day I ….. Woke up? Had an epiphany? Said, “What the hell am I doing?”

I mean seriously, what kind of example was I setting for my daughter? So instead of dreading my failed dreams and goals, I set NEW ones.

When your dreams and realities clash, make new ones! Life is ever changing. You are never destined for one path. Life is made up of hundreds, thousands, millions of paths and options for each individual to choose from.

So what did I do? I went to college, online of course! I now have two degrees under my belt and once my Prince starts 4K in two years, I will be returning for my Ph.D. in Psychology.

I have new hobbies now, too. I taught myself to crochet, I’ve become an avid cook, and oh yea, I started a BLOG (which I wanted to do for years).

I bet you’re wondering what the point of this post is…lemme tell y’all. Nevereverevereverever think you have failed in your dreams or goals. I think too many people dwell on their failures instead of acknowledging their achievements. People, that is not healthy.

Think of new dreams. Make new goals. And try, try again and again. Be flexible, be open, and above all else, *que cheesy music,* always believe in yourself!¡!¡

Now, y’all have a good day, and as always,

Reach for the stars!


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